Forgiveness vs Denial – The Rogers & Hammerstein version

Forgiveness vs Denial – The Rogers & Hammerstein version


Forgiveness vs DenialI was recently asked this question: ‘When A Course in Miracles talks about forgiveness, it says we should overlook the terrible thing that’s going on, and tell ourselves it isn’t really happening. But isn’t that just denial?’

Nope. And I’ll tell you why.

But first, let’s back this up for a minute and take a look at what the world means when it talks about denial.

For this, we’ll take a brief detour into the land of movie musicals. Let’s say you’re a small 19th century boy, and your ship has just landed in Siam. The badass bare-chested chief of security boards the boat and prepares to escort you to the palace of the king.

Holy crap.

Terrified, you turn to your mother who offers this sage advice:

Whenever I feel afraid

I hold my head erect

And whistle a happy tune

And no one will suspect I’m afraid.

She concludes by saying that once she’s fooled everyone else into believing she’s unafraid, she finds she’s fooled herself as well. So now she’s no longer afraid.

Or how about this:

You’re a tiny Austrian kid and you’re scared of thunderstorms. So you fly into Fraulein Maria’s bedroom and leap onto the fluffy white coverlet, hoping for reassurance. And the good Fraulein doesn’t disappoint:

When the dog bites

When the bee stings

When I’m feeling sad

I simply remember my favorite things

And then I don’t feel so bad.

The thunderstorm is still raging, but you’re so busy thinking about brown paper packages tied up with strings that you’ve forgotten all about it. At least until the next big thunderclap.

So, in essence, these heroines of the modern musical are both offering the same dreadful advice: Don’t look down at that nightmarish hole beneath your feet. Don’t listen to the horrifying growls of the beast as it plays on your darkest fears.

Instead, grab a rusty, half-rotted plank and throw it across the gap. Stand in the middle of the plank, close your eyes, put your fingers in your ears and repeat after me at the top of your lungs:

LAH-LAH-LAH-LAH-LAH-LAH-LAH-LAH…

So yeah, that’s denial as the world employs it. Not exactly an effective coping mechanism for blotting out pain and fear. The pain and fear are only temporarily disguised, and the source of the pain and fear remains intact.

On the other hand, when A Course in Miracles talks about forgiveness and denial, it’s using denial in a completely different way.

It says: ‘Look down. See that yawning hole beneath your feet? It isn’t real, you know. You made it up. And although you’re tempted right now to be frightened or angry because you believe the monster in that hole is real, you’re completely mistaken.

 

There is nothing “down there” to get you. There is only one joyous, perfect Self, and you’re it. Look past the illusory image of the hole and its contents, to the loving reality of Heaven.

 

By choosing to see its Heavenly reality instead of the nightmare story you’ve told yourself about it, you are helping to heal your own perception of that hole. And by looking beyond the frightening image of that dark pit to the light beyond it, you help to dissolve the illusory pit itself.

 

Deny your dark illusions and trust in Heaven’s truth instead. This is the sure path to peace and safety.’

Ok, so it doesn’t rhyme and isn’t filmed in glorious Cinemascopic Technicolor.

But it works.

7 thoughts on “Forgiveness vs Denial – The Rogers & Hammerstein version

  1. “Ok, so it doesn’t rhyme and isn’t filmed in glorious Cinemascopic Technicolor. But it works.”

    Silly ego of mine, Carrie,… I keep seeing your book, “Long Time No See” in Cinemascopic Technicolor at a theater near you. Maybe just filmed and supported by your friends at the “Leap” land world to begin with, but eventually sneaking out into mainstream viewing, as well. Call me insane but what better way to help wake up a whole bunch more of myself/yourself/us?

    I know that Gary R has been striving toward the creation of a television series based upon his DU, yet, a movie of your book would reach so many so fast. Just sayin’…*big grins and a little hug, too*

    I heard Gary say at a workshop that Julia Roberts has read his first book. Could you send a copy of yours to her agent to get some kind of ball rolling? Maybe she is tiring of playing the tough babe in the Oceans 11/12 series? Maybe she knows exactly who could play you in the movie? Maybe she could come up with producers and directors and associated crew members to pull it off?

    “It only takes a spark to get a fire going, and soon all those around are warmed up by its glowing. That’s how it is with God’s love, once you experience it…it tastes like love, its from above, you want to pass it on” (from an old girl scout camp song in my youth) Okay, cheesy, but encouraging, just the same. 🙂 *belts it out* *tee hee* Love ya, Sis!

  2. You do always make me laugh, Triskana!
    Yes, I too have always seen this book as a movie. It just feels like it wants to be, whether I’m on board with it or not! (Well, if it wants to go hang out in Hollywood, I guess I won’t stand in its way…)
    xo
    Carrie

  3. I don’t even know how this book came into my hands, It’s amazing… I bought it over the internet and when I received it in the mail… I thought why did I even choose this book? Who is this author? and what made me buy it?. I did not remember, and I still do not remember.
    I started to read it and could not put it down …I know why It came into my hands as I was reading it I thought yes, yes!!! “long time no see …it has been a long time since I remembered but the book reminded me!!! It is so familiar that it is amazing. I know, I understand and thank you so much for writing it!
    I just wish I could remember where I discover it in the first place. But it certainly reminded me where “we” came from and I am so grateful it came into my hands thank you, thank you, thank you I loved it!.

    1. Thank you so much for telling me about this, Andrea. The whole time I was writing this book I had no idea who it was for, who my ‘target reader’ might be. Huge act of faith to put it out there – so I finally just prAyed that it would find it’s own way in the world, and let itself be discovered by any and all who might find it helpful in any way. Hooray for prayers answered!
      Xo
      carrie

  4. This blog entry really makes some excellent points on “denial”. The first time around it didn’t hit home quite as much as this time around (:

    Thanks, Carrie.
    Anil

  5. Carrie, can i share this at “Paulo and the magician” – a website where we share the Course-studying?
    love,
    leelah
    and -…are your next book good under way??

    “On the other hand, when A Course in Miracles talks about forgiveness and denial, it’s using denial in a completely different way.

    It says: ‘Look down. See that yawning hole beneath your feet? It isn’t real, you know. You made it up. And although you’re tempted right now to be frightened or angry because you believe the monster in that hole is real, you’re completely mistaken.

    There is nothing “down there” to get you. There is only one joyous, perfect Self, and you’re it. Look past the illusory image of the hole and its contents, to the loving reality of Heaven.”

    By choosing to see its Heavenly reality instead of the nightmare story you’ve told yourself about it, you are helping to heal your own perception of that hole. And by looking beyond the frightening image of that dark pit to the light beyond it, you help to dissolve the illusory pit itself.

    Deny your dark illusions and trust in Heaven’s truth instead. This is the sure path to peace and safety.’

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